贏得爭論的方法

十有八九的辯論，其結果只會使雙方比以前更相信自己絕對正確。要知道，爭論中永遠不會有真正的贏家。如果在爭論中你失敗了，那當然就敗了，沒什麼好說的；如果你在辯論中獲得勝利，就其本質而言你依然是失敗；因為你即使你使對方論點變得千瘡百孔、一無是處，那又怎麼樣？你因此揚揚得意，而對方卻因為你使得他毫無顏面而怨恨你。

Nine times out of ten, an argument ends with each of the contestants more firmly convinced than ever that he is absolutely right.

You can't win an argument. You can't because if you lose, you lose it; and if you win, you lose it. Why? Well, suppose you triumph over the other man and shoot his argument full of holes and prove that he is non compos mentis. Then what? You feel fine. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior. You have hurt his pride. He will resent your triumph.

non compos mentis: not sane or rational

Dale Carnegie<You can't win an argument>