自憐

在蓋茲博士編寫的《教育心理學》上，有這樣一段話︰「追求被同情是人類的普遍現象，孩子受傷後，會急著展示他的傷口，甚至故意弄傷自己，以此來博得大人的同情。」成人也是如此，他們到處訴說自己的損失或者意外傷害，或者是患上的疾病，以及手術的過程。一般人都有自憐的習性。

Dr. Arthur I. Gates said in his splendid book Educational Psychology: "Sympathy the human species universally craves. The child eagerly displays his injury; or even inflicts a cut or bruise in order to reap abundant sympathy. For the same purpose adults... show their bruises, relate their accidents, illness, especially details of surgical operations. 'Self-pity' for misfortunes real or imaginary is, in some measure, practically a universal practice."

Dale Carnegie <What Everybody Wants>