給無助的人

要逃避痛苦，人們最常用的方式就是遁入未來。在時光的路徑上，人們想像了一條線，越過這條線，當下的痛苦就不存在了。可是女主角在前方卻看不見這條線，只有往後看才能給她帶來安慰。

米蘭‧昆德拉《生命中不能承受之輕》

當一個人可以積極地解決問題時，忽略問題並不是一個好策略。 但是，當無法更改或消除壓力源時，或者擔心壓力源本身就是一個問題時，忽略該問題並不是一個壞主意。

Ignoring a problem is not a good strategy when there is something a person can actively do about solving the problem. But when it is not possible to change or eliminate the stressor, or when worrying about the stressor can be a problem itself, ignoring the problem is not a bad idea.

情緒為主導的應對方法可以改變一個人對壓力源的感覺，減少了壓力源帶來的情緒影響，並有可能有效地解決問題。

Emotion-focused coping is a strategy that involves changing the way a person feels or emotionally reacts to a stressor. This reduces the emotional impact of the stressor and makes it possible to deal with the problem effectively.

有時候，問題為主導的應對方法無法控制壓力源。情緒為主導的應對方法便是另類方案。

Emotion-focused coping also works for stressors that are uncontrollable and for which problem-focused coping is not possible.

Ciccarelli, S. K. (2006). Psychology. Pearson.

情緒為主導的應對方法的例子包括運動、傾訴與正向思考。