sabbatical: a period of time when somebody, especially a teacher at a university, is allowed to stop their normal work in order to study or travel
cane: the hard hollow stem of some plants, for example bamboo or sugar
serene: calm and peaceful
revel: to spend time enjoying yourself in a noisy, enthusiastic way
thereafter: after the time or event mentioned
secluded: (especially of a place) quiet and private
envision: to imagine what a situation will be like in the future, especially a situation you intend to work towards
and so forth: and others or more of the same or similar kind
upbringing: the way in which a child is cared for and taught how to behave while it is growing up
compelling: that makes you pay attention to it because it is so interesting and exciting
self-revealing: marked by self-revelation (disclosure)
tender: easily hurt or damaged
conducive: making it easy, possible or likely for something to happen
implicit: suggested without being directly expressed
leave off: to stop doing something
authentic: known to be real and what somebody claims it is and not a copy
bother: to annoy, worry or upset somebody; to cause somebody trouble or pain
obsession: the state in which a person’s mind is completely filled with thoughts of one particular thing or person in a way that is not reasonable or normal
agitation: worry that you show by behaving in a nervous way
resort to: to make use of something, especially something bad, as a means of achieving something, often because there is no other possible solution
utterly: completely
indefensible: that cannot be defended or excused because it is morally unacceptable
whatsoever: no, nothing, none, etc. whatsoever not at all; not of any kind
justification: a good reason why something exists or is done
upsetting: making you feel unhappy, anxious or annoyed
psychic: connected with the mind rather than the body
submerge: to hide ideas, feelings, opinions, etc. completely
divisive: causing people to be split into groups that disagree with or oppose each other
inventory: stock
couch: DJ[kautʃ] a long comfortable seat for two or more people to sit on
loyalty: DJ[ˋlɔiəlti] the quality of being constant in your support of somebody/something
reverence: a feeling of admiring and respecting somebody/something very much
trivial: not important or serious; not worth considering
trivia: unimportant matters, details or information
trample: to step heavily on somebody/something so that you damage or harm them/it with your feet
sacred: very important and treated with great respect; that must not be changed or challenged
Even seemingly trivial things often have roots in deep emotional experiences. To deal only with the superficial trivia without seeing the deeper, more tender issues is to trample on the sacred ground of another's heart.
不論是一件看似無關緊要的小事,都可能蘊含著豐富而深刻的情感背景,有時甚至連當事人自己也未意識到這其中的重量。當我們僅僅執著於表面上的問題,而未能窺探或理解背後那段可能代表著痛苦、回憶或愛的更細膩部分,就可能在不經意之間傷害到對方的內心。這種無意識的忽視,便像是踩在對方最珍貴、最隱秘的情感領域上,使人感到受到冒犯與冷落。
在《高效能人士的七個習慣》中,特別強調了「先求了解,再爭取被了解」的原則,這正是對上述思想的生動體現。當我們在與人溝通或合作時,若能穿透表面的瑣碎,真正關注並體認他人的內心需求與情感經歷,就能構建更加互相尊重與信任的關係。這不僅幫助我們建立更深層次的人際連結,也促進了個人的成長與人際間的和諧發展。
Stephen R. Covey "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People"
Online Dictionaries Used:
hk.dictionary.search.yahoo.com
www.oxfordlearnersdictionaries.com
www.merriam-webster.com
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